A lot of religious texts say that sex before marriage is a sin and just like the many cultural practices, they corroborate that by also forbidding sex before marriage.
But why is that, what is wrong with indulging in the pleasure of sex?
It defies the true meaning of mutual self giving and human procreation in the context of true love to be shared only in marriage. Procreation means the birth of children whom by natural law we are wronging by bringing them into the world without a stable family unit of a married mother and father. By giving birth to children out of wedlock is actually dishonouring the institution of marriage and the composition of a family.
All these rules in the religious texts were written before anything was invented, when they only depended on nature and it was only natural that when a man and a woman slept together the woman would fall pregnant. Until mankind became too knowledgeable and invented different contraceptives, making men and women feel entitled to sleeping together for the pleasure of it married or not. Sometimes those contraceptives just fail on you and an unplanned pregnancy occurs which could easily result in an abortion – another sinful act. That`s why the Bible in Genesis 2: 16-17 says: “And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.” This is exactly what is happening to mankind right now, our first parents went against God`s commands and now we are feeling the wrath of going against nature`s laws.
As life evolves and human emotions develop, sex is no longer just an exercise of procreation it’s also another highly intimate way of two people getting to understand and trust each other, thus being termed as “making love”. In this life today we need to establish trust before marriage and sex somewhat helps us to do that; it`s not like in the early days when marriage came first and trusting the person came in second – things weren`t this fast as in today`s life.
So personally if I were a religious or cultural leader, I wouldn`t be a s strict when it come to sex and marriage – as long as it is done in a way that won`t morally degrade any one of the two unmarried partners, it isn`t promiscuous and it doesn`t result in an unplanned pregnancy that could result in an abortion and they two should know that if a pregnancy occurs they should marry for the kid to be born into a home of both parents.
We probably don`t see the importance of a child being brought up by his/her parents who are married to each other – but ask yourself, why do we have an aching society?
As said in Genesis 1: 27-28, “So God created man in His own image; male and female He created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it…”” – so in that being written in the Holy Bible and probably more other religious texts, there is absolutely no way sex is the forbidden fruit, God does want us to multiply but as set out naturally.
The forbidden was higher knowledge to mankind and not sex.