Separate lives


“Marriage is not by any to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, discreetly, advisedly, soberly and in the fear of God”.

These days most people enter into marriage unadvisedly, lightly, irreverently, indiscreetly, “drunk in love” and forgetting about God.

People pay much attention to the wedding ceremony and forget about what the institution of marriage should be founded on, that is why a lot of these unions end up in divorces. The till death vow has expired, in some marriages including newlyweds people psychologically make  room for divorce, that’s why when things get tough partners flee from each other. 

Those who`ve gone through it will tell you that divorce is as painful as the death of a loved one. Parting ways with a person especially who you thought you loved or who you thought loved you can never be easy, it is as difficult as that moment when there is no longer any chance of life and you have to turn off the life-support machine of your only child.

Even though family elders, priests and marriage counselors tell you to hold on to your marriage and make it work even though things look bleak, there are some instance which call for a divorce no matter how much the Bible detests it.

If a marriage between two people doesn`t affect anyone positively it is better that the two part ways before they destroy each other. You will go through a lot of conflicting emotions as you contemplate on filing for divorce, but at the end of the day a decision must be made. You`ll start questioning yourself on why did you get married and you`ll wish to come up with an answer that might just help you put things into perspective but it hardly ever happens, either the reasons aren`t valid ones or you just can`t do it anymore.

If you`re indeed determined to divorce your spouse make sure that you`re emotionally, mentally, spiritually, socially, physically and financially well prepared – there shouldn`t be any looking back least you become Lot`s wife and turn into a pillar of salt.

The fact that your marriage failed shouldn`t be that disgraceful because failure shows that you didn`t give up but at least tried fixing the twist but it just wouldn`t straighten out. Divorce isn`t a huge tragedy, a tragedy is when you decide to stay in an unhappy marriage.

The very same Bible that condemns divorce also says for everything there is a season and a time for every matter under the sun.