Death is one such topic that most but not all people usually refrain from engaging in as if it`s almost a taboo subject, because for some it instills fear in them and for others it brings back horrible memories and nostalgia. Death is inevitable, it is as natural as child birth is but every time it occurs the pain rips your heart out no matter how many funerals you`ve ever attended, you never get use to how badly it hurts.
Death affects us all in different ways no matter how it occurred, whether the deceased was sick, was killed or was involved in an accident – some will accept the reality of the passing of a loved one immediately, some will struggle for years with coming to terms with that death and others will remain unfazed by it.
The question is what causes this indescribable pain? Maybe it`s the fear of the unknown, we look into that dark 6 feet deep hole in the ground and we immediately feel claustrophobic, maybe it`s because our love for them compels us to protect them but because where they`re going is foreign to us we feel helpless or maybe it`s being hardly hit by the reality of never seeing them again in the flesh that shatters the spirit. Another thing could be the feeling of being left all alone and now fearing to face the world without that person`s support and love.
Some people have stopped believing in God and others have come to question the concept of God all because of death – because it is preached on mountain tops, in synagogues and in churches that God is love and that everything He does is out of love but then people seem to struggle with understanding that why would a Higher Being who you are told and ought to know that they love you would come back and hurt you – that is the mystery of death.
When the heart has stopped beating and the smile has faded and the words “Ashes to ashes, dust to dust” have been pronounced, it signifies the end of the flesh’s journey and beginning of the spirit’s journey. You will never get those hugs or hear that “I love you” but their spirit will always be with you as it has not died and the memories which you’re left with will keep them alive in your heart.
When death has come in the night and stolen the life of your loved one don’t try and be brave heart, cry and let it all out until your body can no longer cry anymore and all that is left for it to do is carry on.
“For death is but a passing phase of Life;
A change of dress, a disrobing;
A birth into the unborn again;
A commencing where we ended;
A starting where we stopped to rest;
A crossroad of Eternity;
A giving up of something, to possess all things.
The end of the unreal, the beginning of the real”.
EDWIN LEIBFREED, “The Song of the Soul”