From what we know and from what we`ve experienced, apart from being pleasurable, sex for all men is about validation, power and sex is also the Holy Grail of their manhood. For men who are racked with doubt, those men who cover up their bad habits with obnoxious bravado and those men with feelings of inadequacy, sex is the iron fist by which they rule over women with. For such men sex can be dangerous – falling in love, obsession, rejection, abandonment, loss of self, fear of annihilation, psychosis and the manic madness of ecstasy are all potential psychological side-effects of sex. One passionate, spontaneous sexual encounter can change the course of a life, for better or worse.
What kind of a man forces himself on a woman – a woman he sometimes knows and at times doesn`t know? Such a man is the one who feels emasculated and can smell vulnerability in a woman from a mile away. These man think that raping a woman will reinstate their manhood – the nest of such a mentality is made out of distorted ideologies of “distance oneself from femininity”, “restrict emotions”, “be tough and aggressive”, “be seen as highly sexual with women” and “prove one`s heterosexuality”. Some men were taught that a woman who says ‘NO’ to him is defiant and should be punished for saying that. Some men also believe that they have unearned masculine rights towards women – like touching her bum without her permission and expecting her not to mind it.
I think it`s safe to say that rapists are men who psychologically don`t like women who own themselves and own the space they operate in and prey on those women who can`t balance their femininity and sexuality.
Men with such corrupt minds should learn to respect a woman`s body, whether they see it in magazines or in real life – a woman`s body is a sanctuary of life and should be taken care of at all times. Raping a woman is like breaking a glass into tiny sharp pieces, the next person who`ll be picking up those pieces will have to be careful not to cut themselves.
As Joseph Campbell says in The Hero with a Thousand Faces: “It is only when a man tames his own demons that he becomes the king of himself if not of the world”.