Traci Lea Larussa said “Judge tenderly, if you may. There is usually a side you have not heard, a story you know nothing about, and a battle waged that you are not having to fight.”

How often are we put on trial by other people for the way we choose to live our lives and the decisions we make, be it big or small? We are brought before a bench of judges, these judges are oftentimes our family, friends or a partner and society becomes the jury who deliberate on if we’re guilty or not. Very often we will be representing ourselves because it’s either no one is willing to represent us or we simply can’t find a representative who will do us justice and give us our freedom back. 

The question is, why should we be put on trial by the wrong judge and who gives them the authority to rule on what’s right and what’s wrong in our lives?

As much as judgement might be a natural instinct we must catch ourselves before we talk because we can`t get our words back we will only get reactions. When a person does something we don`t like it is better to refrain from saying or doing anything negative, just accept that we all solve problems differently. The Dalai Lama says “People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness, just because they`re not on your road doesn`t mean they`ve gotten lost.”

Some people judge others just to make themselves feel good so that they can sleep better at night – it`s a case of “I sin less compared to you.” We forget that we are more alike than we are different – we`re all alike because we`re all human and every human being makes mistakes, which means that if you judge another person you too are to be judged. The best we can do for one another is give each other the benefit of the doubt to avoid underestimating another person`s pain – sometimes pain can lead us into temptation and deliver us to evil. Just believe that a person is right in what they`re doing until you`re proven otherwise. Please, don`t go snooping around in their life to seek for what you believe is the truth, just choose to look for the basic goodness in that person.

The Ten Commandments are there to guide us but remember, God doesn`t judge the action, He judges the intention. Just make sure that your intentions are unquestionable.

Please don’t judge me and I won’t judge you…