Whispers Of Love



It is said that love doesn’t ask why it simply speaks from the heart and it never explains. It doesn’t think twice, it can come all at once or it can whisper from a distance.

Some people will tell you of love at first sight, some will tell you of destiny and others will tell you of forbidden love – that’s why it’s said that love doesn’t really have to make much sense it just has to be strong.

There are some men who will see a woman at the mall, he’ll shake hands with her in a meeting or he’ll be standing behind her in a queue at the bank and without talking to her he will say to himself or to a friend “That’s my future wife and the mother of my kids” and indeed that’s who she’ll end up being. How does this happen, is it possible to fall in love with someone by just looking at them? 

Their attitude towards you
Winston Churchill once said “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” The affective feelings of liking towards you which a person gets and reflects can make a sizeable impact on how you feel about them. When a person likes you at first glance a meaningful gesture or conversation is sparked – the rest will follow.

Their behaviour
The way in which a person acts or conducts themself towards others can turn on the next person – good manners are a good social etiquette.

Their looks
Some people will tell you that the way a person’s eyes look, the way their lips are rounded or a the smile strikes a cord with them. Also personal groom, things like the way a woman wears her hair or the way a guy shaves can be appealing to some people. Again, personal style like masculine swagger sparks interest in others.

The way you look at them
It is said that eyes are windows to the soul – how you look at a person says a lot about what is going on in your mind. When you look at them with mellow eyes it sends out an invitation to “dance”.

The way they talk to you
Usually people who are loud, vulgar, arrogant and all over the place are distasteful to most people but a smooth and sincere person in talking is more acceptable to a lot of people. When a person always chooses their words wisely and also doesn’t raise their voice whenever they talk to you, then that easily turns the other person on.

A touch
The power of touch is unique – whether it is an accidental
glaze from a stranger, the strong pressings of a masseur, a gentle hold from a close someone, a reaffirming squeeze of the hand, an ‘I see you’ caress or a courage giving touch on the back. It can give power to connections, it can heal, it can be a manner of communication and it can soothe.

A touch activates the body’s vagus nerve which is intimately connected with our compassionate response. The vagus nerve is the pair of nerves that extends from the brain to the belly and passes the heart along the way – that’s how a touch can awaken love for the other person.

This is exactly how people fall in love in mysterious ways – with just a touch of a hand, a smile or a dance…


Love Misunderstood



When love arrives in a person’s life that human vessel which delivers that love is suddenly adored and glorified, and a demigod is created out of that person. People then start praying to their partners with words like “I’m nothing without you” or “I can’t breathe without you” or “I just started living when I met you” – such “prayers” will take you to an unsatisfactory place.

According to the Bible in the book of Mark 10:8, when you marry someone “the two will become one flesh so that you are no longer two, but one flesh” but in the book of Jeremiah 17:5 it says “Thus says the LORD, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.” This is true for believers and non believers.

Do not forget where you come from and what you were created to do – your life should never revolve around a mere mortal because that person is dust and one day they will return to dust, what then will become of you? Misunderstanding love and its implications will lead a person into darkness.

Do not give credit of your existence to a human being even though the love they’ve given you has turned you into a better person, rather thank God for showing you His love through that person. When you love a person you love the God in them, you become each others mirror into which God can look at Himself and admire His beauty.

The love human beings express to each other has it’s flaws because we’re exposed to both the good and the evil sides of life – it’s not a perfect love, we’re not yet in heaven where only goodness prevails.

Live by this prayer – “God you love my partner, help me to love him/her the same way you do.” A person who has a good relationship with the Almighty makes the best lover.

Cure Of Life



We often confine love to just romance but love also has healing properties, it is a natural remedy which heals every ailment known to mankind no matter how big or small it might be.

A friend of mine and his colleagues once witnessed gruesome killings at work during a salary increase strike – unfortunately one of the colleagues suffered a nervous/mental breakdown due to the trauma. Thanks to the love his wife gave him during his state of instability he made a full recovery. That love encouraged him to fight for his life – the healing properties of love restored order.

On the other hand, just a couple of days ago I buried someone very close to me who lost his battle to cancer. We all agree that the cancer might’ve been stronger than him but what weakened him even further is the fact that his wife failed to love him the way he deserved to be loved.

These two situations made me realise that love is paramount in every person’s life and that no one deserves to be alone.

In a world where every heart lives in pain, we often get asked “What is true love?” – know from now on that true love is the affection a person experiences from another person which restores the true self from an affliction. If the presence of a person doesn’t restore health to an imbalanced situation in your life then that person hasn’t brought love into your life. True love is also a healer – if the love you give or receive doesn’t rejuvenate, transform and cleanse a person from the inside out, then something else has disguised itself as love. True love is also a compass, it leads you in the right direction. If you lose your direction in life or are led away from yourself yet have it in your mind that you love someone or you are loved then you haven’t encountered the truthfulness of love.

Be generous in giving love and be open to receiving love – know that the absence of love can kill you but the presence of love can cure you.