Who You Belong To



A reading from the book of Ephesians 2: 19 – 22 “Whenever you feel unloved, unimportant or insecure, remember to whom you belong.”

Human beings have a way of making the other feel unloved, even the very people who delivered you into this world and were entrusted with loving you – your parents, can make you feel worthless.

Every time we attend funerals the one leading the funeral service will remind us that we are dust and that one day to dust we shall return. Yes, we were moulded from the earth’s clay, but who breathed life into us and gave us a purpose in life? It is God the Almighty, the One who grows a child in a woman’s womb for nine months, the One who keeps time moving, the One who never repeats a single day in your life, the One whose voice reverberates in the sky when rain approaches etc. This is the Being to whom we all belong.

You are of sentimental value to your Creator – you’ve been given a purpose that’s why you are important, you are loved and safe that is why you’re still alive right now despite all the bad things you’ve been through.

Whether you’re paraplegic, blind, deaf etc. you do have a purpose that’s why you were created that way – the Creator has put you on this earth the way you are to teach other people to live with someone different to themselves, you are teaching people how to live an elastic life. And those who go through life feeling unloved, trust that there’s someone out there who loves you in silence that is why you’re still alive – no one has publicly professed their love for you but you being alive has an impact on their life, that is how God has made things to be.

Sometimes people entrust themselves to a broken person who can perfectly pretend to be fine – later in life that person will break you so that you look like them. The creator is the only one who can properly take care of their creation, the curator can try to take good care of the creation to the best of their abilities but the care will lack something provided the curator adores the creator of the creation – the best lovers are those who have a well looked after relationship with their God.

Remember you were created for a purpose with love and passion – you are loved and you are important. You are of sentimental value to your Creator.


Blessed Is The Fruit Of Thy Womb



It all starts with the morning sickness, the weight gain, the bottomless pit appetite, the swollen ankles, the backache, the heartburn, the tiredness, the insomnia, the countless trips to the loo, the raging hormones and the final cherry on top, the labour pains. But even after all this nine months of hell, the most sacred and breathtaking moments in a woman’s life happen during pregnancy. The birth of that angelic bundle of joy makes jumping through all those hoops of fire worth it. I once heard a man say that he wished that he too could fall pregnant and go through all this just to experience the awe of bringing a life into the world.

A woman will feel the greatest of pain when her man cheats on her, she might even lose her sanity if her husband divorces her but there is no greater pain in a woman’s life like not being able to fall pregnant, not being able to carry a baby to term, suffering a miscarriages or having to bury their child at any age the child might die at.

Even though Eve got women punished from generation to generation until the end of time but upon those very women the Creator has bestowed an indelible gift, a gift of being a vessel of life and for this gift every woman should be thankful. The best thank you a woman can give the Creator is by taking care of herself – treating her body like a palace and not a pigsty; another show of gratitude is by taking good care of the child pre and post birth. Give him or her the best love ever, protect them and most of all teach them about the greatness of the Creator.

To those women who have been told that they can’t bear kids of their own, wait upon the Lord. To those who are soon-to-be mommies, recognise with great appreciation the blessing you’ve been blessed with and to those whose womb hasn’t been home to God’s angel(s) as yet, keep the home warm and hearty for the baby(ies) arrival.

Allow me to say this, women are definitely angels of life on earth – this is our calling.

Renounce & Denounce



Words can start a war and words can bring peace, words can build, words can break, words can hurt, words can heal, words can kill and they can give life. Words can bring understanding as much as they can bring misunderstanding and words can build confidence or break it. With that said, we need to be very cautious of what comes out of our mouths because words have the power to bring feelings and ideas to life and they also have the power to change a life for better or worse.

Words are like seeds – some you’ll scatter them your path and birds will come and eat, some will fall in rocky places with little soil where they germinate quicker but will wither away even quicker because they have no roots. Some of the words you plant will fall into thorny places, these thorns will grow bigger and will suffocate the plant and some will fall on very fertile ground and they will produce beautiful and edible fruits.

Be careful that your words don’t become bird food (gossip), give your words roots so that they may not wither away but stay in a person’s mind and heart forever; do not say things just to manipulate the next person like saying “I love you” to a person just because they are rich. Rather speak your words so that they may be understood, professed, kept in the heart and received well for them to make a positive impact in a person’s life.

A person’s reception of what you say depends holistically on the condition of their heart and mind. If the only thing a person feels for you is hate, everything you say to them will carry negativity. To the one you love, prepare their heart like you prepare the soil for planting – condition their heart to purely receive your profession of love and to take to heart your promises.

As the saying goes, “the proof is in the pudding” – let me turn my attention to how words ruined an 19 year marriage. Marah Louw, a South African actress and songstress was married to a Scottish businessman, Bill Thomson. Marah say that for 16 years of the 19 years their marriage was filled with happiness until her then husband started acting up – he started having issues with her weight, he started calling her “ugly” among many other nasty comments. She says the way things were bad she felt like she was cracking up, that’s when she sought therapy in Cape Town. This is a classic example of body shaming and this shaming is nothing else but verbal – another example of the effects of words.

Marah Louw has recently released her tell all autobiography, where she’s written about her married and many more of her life events – the book is titled It’s Me, Marah.

As Tom Stoppard writes, “Words… They’re innocent, neutral, precise, standing for this, describing that, meaning the other, so if you look after them you can build bridges across incomprehension and chaos. But when they get their corners knocked off, they’re no good any more…”

Guard your mouth because what you say goes into the universe and can come into existence – will like it, will you not?