Whispers Of Love

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It is said that love doesn’t ask why it simply speaks from the heart and it never explains. It doesn’t think twice, it can come all at once or it can whisper from a distance.

Some people will tell you of love at first sight, some will tell you of destiny and others will tell you of forbidden love – that’s why it’s said that love doesn’t really have to make much sense it just has to be strong.

There are some men who will see a woman at the mall, he’ll shake hands with her in a meeting or he’ll be standing behind her in a queue at the bank and without talking to her he will say to himself or to a friend “That’s my future wife and the mother of my kids” and indeed that’s who she’ll end up being. How does this happen, is it possible to fall in love with someone by just looking at them? 

Their attitude towards you
Winston Churchill once said “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” The affective feelings of liking towards you which a person gets and reflects can make a sizeable impact on how you feel about them. When a person likes you at first glance a meaningful gesture or conversation is sparked – the rest will follow.

Their behaviour
The way in which a person acts or conducts themself towards others can turn on the next person – good manners are a good social etiquette.

Their looks
Some people will tell you that the way a person’s eyes look, the way their lips are rounded or a the smile strikes a cord with them. Also personal groom, things like the way a woman wears her hair or the way a guy shaves can be appealing to some people. Again, personal style like masculine swagger sparks interest in others.

The way you look at them
It is said that eyes are windows to the soul – how you look at a person says a lot about what is going on in your mind. When you look at them with mellow eyes it sends out an invitation to “dance”.

The way they talk to you
Usually people who are loud, vulgar, arrogant and all over the place are distasteful to most people but a smooth and sincere person in talking is more acceptable to a lot of people. When a person always chooses their words wisely and also doesn’t raise their voice whenever they talk to you, then that easily turns the other person on.

A touch
The power of touch is unique – whether it is an accidental
glaze from a stranger, the strong pressings of a masseur, a gentle hold from a close someone, a reaffirming squeeze of the hand, an ‘I see you’ caress or a courage giving touch on the back. It can give power to connections, it can heal, it can be a manner of communication and it can soothe.

A touch activates the body’s vagus nerve which is intimately connected with our compassionate response. The vagus nerve is the pair of nerves that extends from the brain to the belly and passes the heart along the way – that’s how a touch can awaken love for the other person.

This is exactly how people fall in love in mysterious ways – with just a touch of a hand, a smile or a dance…

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Love Misunderstood

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When love arrives in a person’s life that human vessel which delivers that love is suddenly adored and glorified, and a demigod is created out of that person. People then start praying to their partners with words like “I’m nothing without you” or “I can’t breathe without you” or “I just started living when I met you” – such “prayers” will take you to an unsatisfactory place.

According to the Bible in the book of Mark 10:8, when you marry someone “the two will become one flesh so that you are no longer two, but one flesh” but in the book of Jeremiah 17:5 it says “Thus says the LORD, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind and makes flesh his strength, and whose heart turns away from the Lord.” This is true for believers and non believers.

Do not forget where you come from and what you were created to do – your life should never revolve around a mere mortal because that person is dust and one day they will return to dust, what then will become of you? Misunderstanding love and its implications will lead a person into darkness.

Do not give credit of your existence to a human being even though the love they’ve given you has turned you into a better person, rather thank God for showing you His love through that person. When you love a person you love the God in them, you become each others mirror into which God can look at Himself and admire His beauty.

The love human beings express to each other has it’s flaws because we’re exposed to both the good and the evil sides of life – it’s not a perfect love, we’re not yet in heaven where only goodness prevails.

Live by this prayer – “God you love my partner, help me to love him/her the same way you do.” A person who has a good relationship with the Almighty makes the best lover.

Cure Of Life

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We often confine love to just romance but love also has healing properties, it is a natural remedy which heals every ailment known to mankind no matter how big or small it might be.

A friend of mine and his colleagues once witnessed gruesome killings at work during a salary increase strike – unfortunately one of the colleagues suffered a nervous/mental breakdown due to the trauma. Thanks to the love his wife gave him during his state of instability he made a full recovery. That love encouraged him to fight for his life – the healing properties of love restored order.

On the other hand, just a couple of days ago I buried someone very close to me who lost his battle to cancer. We all agree that the cancer might’ve been stronger than him but what weakened him even further is the fact that his wife failed to love him the way he deserved to be loved.

These two situations made me realise that love is paramount in every person’s life and that no one deserves to be alone.

In a world where every heart lives in pain, we often get asked “What is true love?” – know from now on that true love is the affection a person experiences from another person which restores the true self from an affliction. If the presence of a person doesn’t restore health to an imbalanced situation in your life then that person hasn’t brought love into your life. True love is also a healer – if the love you give or receive doesn’t rejuvenate, transform and cleanse a person from the inside out, then something else has disguised itself as love. True love is also a compass, it leads you in the right direction. If you lose your direction in life or are led away from yourself yet have it in your mind that you love someone or you are loved then you haven’t encountered the truthfulness of love.

Be generous in giving love and be open to receiving love – know that the absence of love can kill you but the presence of love can cure you.

Twin Flames

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Twin Flame reunions are the most fulfilling relationships humans can ever enter into. However, twin flame couples have been extremely rare on the planet but despite this more and more twins are finding each other now because of the speeding up of spiritual transformation and opportunities for soul evolution which people are experiencing.

When flame twins get together, it is for some kind of spiritual service work. This is their main reason for finding each other – through their union a huge amount of creative energy is birthed and it is to be used for their mission together.

The union of a twin flame is more intense than any other union, and this intensity is at a soul level. Even though other attractions like physical, emotional or romantic attractions do exist in a twin flame union but the strongest attraction is of spirit – this is one of the distinguishing characteristics of a twin soul.

The chance of meeting and staying with your twin depends on how evolved your soul is and how much of your baggage from the past and present lives you have cleared. The biggest reason twins have to separate after coming together is because each twin should deal with their individual emotional baggage so that when they reunite there shouldn’t be anything between the both of them which could block their closeness to one another. This means that the twins should separate to heal everything that hasn’t been previously healed.

When flame twins reunite, both of them experience the heightening of their spiritual growth and awakening – they get on the fast track of learning about esoteric wisdom and experiencing other states of consciousness. They usually haven’t been together all that often during their series of lives in this world thus their backgrounds may be different, yet there is a closeness and similarities of spirit that are inexplicable and such a closeness and similarities are noticed in many ways – such as looking back at yourself when you look at your twin and you get to remember of the distant past when you first split up.

Guidance is strong in these relationships and usually one or both of these twins have a good channel of communication with the Spirit. The connection between these twins is telepathic and hugging each other is like coming home for replenishment.

Our twin flames can be lovers, sisters, brothers, friends, cousins or even our mothers or fathers. For some people they arise at the most convenient of times and for others they arise at the most complicated of times. For others twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with them in spirit.

I had thought that nothing good could come out of 2016 for me but I was wrong – I believe that I finally realized who my twin flame is, on my December 28th birthday.

2016 was definitely a spiritual year for me…

“Underperformer”

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The worst thing that can ever happen to a man is if he cannot get his game on in the bedroom. This is the Armagadon of any relationship because not only does this make a man feel emasculated but it’s also a deal breaker for a lot of women.

Everyone in their relationship would love to experience their own 50 Shades of Grey – it is human nature. That’s why we even have people who take time out of their lives to study and quakify in the scientific study of human sexuality , including human sexual interests, behaviours and functions – that’s how much sex is important.

There are main types of male sexual dysfunctions and these are:
-Erectile dysfunction (difficulty getting/keeping an erection)
-Premature ejaculation (reaching orgasm too quickly)
-Delayed or inhibited ejaculation (reaching orgasm too slowly or not at all)
-Low libido (reduced interest in sex)

Any of these sexual dysfunctions can be caused by heart disease, clogged blood vessels (atherosclerosis), high cholesterol, high blood pressure, diabetes, obesity, metabolic syndrome — (a condition involving increased blood pressure, high insulin levels, body fat around the waist and high cholesterol), parkinson’s disease, multiple sclerosis, peyronie’s disease — (development of scar tissue inside the penis), certain prescription medications, smoking, alcoholism, sleep disorders, treatments for prostate cancer or enlarged prostate and surgeries or injuries that affect the pelvic area or spinal cord. There are also psychological causes of sexual dysfunctions – these include depression, anxiety or other mental health conditions, stress and relationship problems due to stress, poor communication or other concerns.

These causes of sexual dysfunction are serious ones but often times women will mock men for not being able to satisfy them in bed as if it’s a learning disability – if she doesn’t cheat on him she’ll fake her orgasm. The danger about faking an orgasm is that this man is falsely convinced that he is “Tarzan” and even if he feels that he needs to seek medical help for a problem he’s picked up in his sexual drive he’ll simply sit back because his woman is giving him the impression that she’s satisfied with him. Ladies, the bedroom pretence you’re putting up is actually prolonging your partners problem, a problem which could possibly cut his life very short.

They say speech is silver, silence is golden but not in such a situation – here silence kills.

We know that men can be very touchy when you question their “manhood” and they even become worse when you mention a doctor but as his woman if you love him you’ll not keep quiet and you won’t add to his frustrations.

If you know the cause of his sexual problems be patiently supportive and don’t love him less. If you don’t know what could be wrong start a conversation by dropping hints here and there and listen to his responses, those responses will direct you to the next step. If he’s hard to crack open start leaving men’s health articles around the house like love notes – he’ll eventually get the message. And practice what you preach – if you tell him of exercising and eating healthy, let him see it from you first.

How do you look at someone you love and tell yourself it’s
time to walk away?

To you I give

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It’s amazing how the little things we consider insignificant can cause grossly disproportionate damage – those little foxes that do great harm to the vines.

We see people choosing not to get married, some cohabit, others get married but their marriage ends up in a divorce even after many years of being together and we also have those who cheat on their partners. The root cause of all of this isn’t something as big as the ending of the world but it is something as simple as the lack of submission.

Often when people think of submitting themselves to partner they think of it as stupidity, slavery, patriarchy, emasculation or abuse. For some people that might be a reality but this isn’t the true definition of submission between two people who love each other. Submission is about you unconditionally giving your heart to your partner.

Submission starts with SELF-DISCIPLINE. There’s all kinds of temptations in the world and now and then a person will be subjected to a temptation which could destroy their marriage or relationship – an individual needs to be able to suppress their desires for the sake of the wellbeing of their partner. Be a responsible someone.

Submission is a show of MATURITY. You should understand that giving yourself to your partner doesn’t mean that your subjecting yourself to something negative and in turn your partner shouldn’t think they’ve been upgraded to a demigod/goddess. You’re submitting yourself because of love and love should be reciprocated.

Submission is about being NAKED. When you take off your clothes to make love to your partner, you submit yourself to the pleasure and passion. You must then take this nakedness a step further, you need to be naked (be transparent) when talking to your partner – be trustworthy and honest, don’t be a pretender.

Submission only happens when there is WILLINGNESS – without willingness it is no longer submission, you’re being subjected to slavery and everything negative. Give of yourself because you want to not because you’re forced to.

Put all this in an envelope of love and seal it with a kiss.

The glue in every relationship is submission, your willingness to do anything for your partner wholeheartedly shows unconditional love, the kind of love most needed in every marriage/relationship.

Let the other heart be the rhythm and let the other be the echo.

Intertwined

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The topic of religion is a very sensitive one, be it among scholars, friends or family but it becomes even more sensitive when it comes to love – the question is, how important is your partner’s religious background to you?

I’ll start with myself – I’m a very active and practice Catholic and my religion isn’t just a belief system, it is my lifestyle. I was raised by a Catholic mother and a father who didn’t believe in Jesus Christ but for the sake of his family, on Christmas day he’d join in the festivities. Despite their different religions backgrounds, my parents had a wonderful marriage. I guess that’s what influenced me to have dated a Baha’i faith follower.

We almost got married and we had even talked about starting a family. I made it very clear to him that first of all, no matter how much he might try to persuade me or how much he might pray for me, I will never convert to the Baha’i faith and secondly our kids will only be allowed free religion will after they turn 18. It was either this or nothing at all – that’s how important my religion is to me. This didn’t mean that I thought of my religious beliefs as being superior to his but I feared that if I were to leave the Catholic Church, I would lose myself – I would then turn into a wife and mother I didn’t want to be.

You’d ask – why date someone of such different religious beliefs to Catholicism if being Catholic is so important to me – it’s simple, he was raised Catholic and that’s what made me comfortable about him. “What is your religious background?” is not a question I’d ask my prospective partner instead he’ll voluntarily and immediately disclose it himself especially seeing as to how involved I am with my Church.

For me, my partner’s religious background matters a great deal, not because I’m being judgemental or prejudice but because the way a person lives his life in accordance with God or a Higher Power’s teachings  is very important. If it happens that I marry out of the Catholic faith, I prefer to date/marry someone of a relative religion to Catholicism or someone who is spiritual, those who believe in the healing powers of nature and those who believe in the sacred mystery of life.

Tolerance, emotional maturity and open mindedness is what is needed in a relationship of two partners with different religious backgrounds. It will also depend on how much an individual values their religion, if you’re a “churchgoer” then you’ll most probably go into any building labelled “church” but if you’re a believer you’ll stick to what you believe in and avoid anyone who might lead you astray.

A relationship is like a dish, religion in this dish is the spice – some spices compliment each other and others can cause sickness when put together. So be careful as to how much spice you put in and what kind is it.